The Pueblo
Indian Wedding Vase 
Polished redware wedding vase by Charlene Tosa of Jemez Pueblo.
"After a period of courtship, a boy and girl decide to get married, but they cannot do so until certain customs have been observed. The boy must first call all of his relatives together to tell them that her desires to be married to a certain girl. If the relatives agree, two or three of the oldest men are chosen to call on the parents of the girl. Here, they pray according to Indian custom and then the oldest man will tell the parents of the girl what their mission is. The parents never give a definite answer at this time -- they just say they will let the boy's family know their decision.
About a week later, the girl calls a meeting of her relatives. The family then decides what answer should be given. If the answer is "no", that is the end of it; but, if the answer is "yes", the oldest men in her family are delegated to go to the boy's home to give their answer and to tell the boy on what day he can come to receive his bride-to-be.
Now the boy must find a godmother and godfather. The godmother immediately starts making the wedding vase so that it will be finished by the time the girl is to be received. The godmother also takes some of the stones which are designated as "holy" and dips them into water to make the "holy water" with which the vase is filled for the day of the reception. The boy must also notify all of his relatives on what day the girl will receive him so that they will be able to prepare gifts for the girl.
The reception day finally comes and the godmother and godfather lead the procession of the boy's relatives to the home of the girl. The groom-to-be is the last in line, and must stand at the door of the girl's home until all of the gifts have been received and opened by the girl.
The bride and groom now kneel in the middle of the floor with all the girl's and boy's relatives praying all around them. After the prayers, the godmother places the wedding vase in front of the bride and groom. The bride then drinks from one side of the wedding vase and the groom drinks from the other. The vase is then passed to all in the room -- the men drinking from one side, and the women from the other side.
After the ritual of drinking the "holy water" and the prayers, the girl's family feeds all of the boy's relatives and a date is set for the church wedding. The wedding vase is set aside until after the church wedding. After the church wedding, the wedding vase is again filled with any drink the family may choose and all of the family now drinks in the traditional manner: women on one side, men on the other side. Having served its ceremonial function, the wedding vase is now given to the young couple as a good luck piece. "
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